Someone asked me today who I was. What a strange question to ask someone. So I decided to really think about it and I've come to the conclusion that who I am is very complicated. I usually define myself as a mom and teacher (before a few weeks ago, I would have said wife as well but not now) but that's not who I fully am. Isn't it weird that people don't really tell you who they are on a normal basis? So anyway, I decided to try to explain who I am here. Please don't get bored!
I am almost 42 years old, I have been married and divorced (almost) twice. I have three grown children ages 21, 20 and 18 (two girls and one boy). My current job is as a teacher but that could change soon. I am very loud, obnoxious at times and have been told that I am too "in your face" because I often say what I think without worrying about the consequences. I really don't care what anyone thinks of me. I am 5' 10" tall, overweight, and unsure of myself at times. I like to drink beer and wine, I smoke and I am agnostic. I like to travel, play poker, swim, scuba dive and have jumped out of an airplane three times. I don't like cleaning but do it because I have to, I just don't do it as often as I should. I love my car (2006 Mini Cooper S) and I love my electronics as long as they're Apple :). I love my kids more than anything and try to spend as much time as possible with my two girls (my son is unable to spend time with me). I love going out with my friends and if there's someone in my life, I like spending time with them too. My favorite thing to do on a date is dinner and drinks afterward so good conversation is a must. I'm intelligent but not overly so. I went to college. I don't like pretension and I hate liars. I believe the most basic rules to live by are honesty, trust, respect for yourself and others and love. This applies to ALL human kind. I believe that people should be able to love whomever they want, gay or straight. I believe that democrats and republicans should grow up and get along (I'm a libertarian). I believe that both Barack Obama AND George H. W. Bush are morons. I believe that somewhere there is ONE right person for everyone. I believe that you should always be honest with someone you love because that's what a relationship is all about. I believe that relationships are hard work but worth the risk.
What do I want? I want someone who wants me in spite of all of the above. Someone who will do dishes with me, go for spontaneous car rides to nowhere and who will go visit my crazy family without complaining. I want someone who genuinely loves me no matter what and treats me like I'm the only person they'll ever love. Someone who will hold my hand while walking on the beach. Someone who will go to a spa to have a couples massage. Someone who will not turn their nose up in disgust if I cut my hair short. Someone who isn't afraid of hard work and will work hard to help me take care of things financially (notice I said HELP not pay for all - I don't want to be taken care of, I want us to take care of each other).
I want someone who wants to spend life with me and will share me. I want someone who doesn't want any more kids (I'm done with that part of life). I want someone who likes sitting at home and watching TV or going out to the movies, dinner, comedy shows, etc. I want someone who likes to have conversations or sit in silence. I want someone who will share what they're thinking; let me comfort them when their sad or upset, and who will do the same with me in return. I would like someone to help me do dishes, and someone who won't mind if they're not done.
Okay enough rambling. I'm done with this, for now :)
